As we are witnessing in so many aspects of life right now, and with everything that’s happening in the world, the old systems and constructs that have been at the bedrock of our culture for hundreds of years – are crumbling from underneath us.

We have long been existing inside of a culture and in a world that does not value human life. That is evidently clear with the latest course of events and what’s been being exposed and coming into the light.

And if we live in a world that doesn’t value human life, then by default, we also live in a world that doesn’t value the sanctity of marriage or the family unit.

One of the oldest constructs and programming of our culture that directly effects marriage today – that is crumbling down and longer serves us is: SEPARATISM.

Many of the marital problems that exist today are caused largely by the programming of separatism. From our gender, to our race, to our social class, to our credit scores, separatism has been deeply ingrained and programmed subconsciously into all of us from childhood. Not to mention most of us...

HOLIDAYS ARE HERE, AND YOU KNOW WHAT THAT MEANS: STRESS!

Parties, dinners, decorations, presents, overspending, rushing around, toxic family members….

Holidays can be SO stressful because they include all things that trigger!

So we wanted to do this special holiday edition episode to help you have holidays that you not only survive in, but thrive in that make you genuinely FEEL good, are joy filled, calm, peaceful, and loving.

At least 90% of the time💁🏻‍♀️

I asked God often, and for many for years of my life – to show me the way to true internal peace because I remember how miserable it was to always have that internal gnawing of dissatisfaction, negativity, and helplessness – like I would never know the answers for how to find it.

It was such a crappy place to live and one that was completely unnecessary. But I didn’t have the tools, and I didn’t have the knowledge to make the shift.

Knowing what I know now, the problem was that I was looking outside of myself externally for the things that would give me inner peace.

I looked for it in the amount of money I was making. In the house I lived in. In my husband – wanting him to soothe away and fix my inner anguish.

But NONE of that worked. NONE.

It wasn’t until I became acutely self aware that something absolutely needed to change, and took 100% responsibility as the creator of my reality – that things began to shift radically in my internal world.

And as my inner peace began to grow and flourish, my external world began to change in miraculous ways...

This week, we are continuing our 5-Part Series, The 5 Losing Strategies In Communication and in today’s episode, we are talking about the number 4 Losing Strategy and it’s a NASTY one: RETALIATION.

In this episode we talk about:

• How there’s nothing that HARSHNESS ACHIEVES that LOVING FIRMNESS can’t achieve better.
• How retaliation is actually just revenge.
• The difference between overt and covert retaliation.
• Specific examples of how retaliation shows up in marriage.
• What to do about this losing strategy and how to get rid of it for good!

See you on the episode!

January 2009 – I was nearing the ending phase of a toxic and physically abusive marriage to a narcissist.

January 2011 – I met the love of my life who I now have a conscious and aligned marriage with – who also just happens to be an empath and healer who is loving, kind, patient, and has a huge heart.

TALK ABOUT DRASTIC NIGHT AND DAY CHANGE!!! And changed QUICKLY.

How???

My mirror has changed DRASTICALLY to reflect who I am on the inside and my whole life has changed because of a DECISION to have something and be something very different.

I changed my life forever in 2009 when I made the DECISION to begin to get myself out of the situation I was in, to get help, find myself, figure out how I got myself into that situation, and to heal myself from the inside-out no matter what so I would never find myself in a situation like that again.

A conscious and aligned marriage, as well as a business helping others create their conscious and aligned marriages have been created and fostered with TLC since that time – and my strategy is the same now as it...

This week, we are continuing our 5-Part Series, The 5 Losing Strategies In Communication and we are talking about the number 3 Losing Strategy: Unbridled Self-Expression.

In this episode we talk all about:

Learning to become self-aware of our own emotions and feelings

How to be own our experience of things without projecting onto our partner

The difference between unbridled self-expression and constructive self-expression

Specific examples of how unbridled self-expression shows up in marriage.

What to do about this losing strategy and how to get rid of it for good!

See you on the episode!

**We apologize in advance for the blurry picture, but the content is too good to miss out on. So make sure to tune in!

This week, we are continuing our 5-Part Series, The 5 Losing Strategies In Communication and we are talking about the number 2 Losing Strategy: Controlling Your Partner.

In this episode we talk all about:

• Control and why it is such a tempting strategy.
• How controlling behavior can show up differently in men and women.
• The difference between blatant/overt control and the more sneaky/covert control and what they each look and sound like.
• Specific examples of how control shows up in the every day lives of our clients.
• What to do about this losing strategy and how to get rid of it for good!

See you on the episode!

This week, we kick off our first of many series to come called: The 5 Losing Strategies of Communication.

You see, we all have what is called: “a losing strategy profile” that can seriously trip us up in relationship. And when your losing strategy profile is triggered and activated in you, it will automatically trigger the losing strategy profile in your partner.

So we created this series for you, to help you gain more self awareness around what your losing strategy profile is around communication in your relationship, and what to do about it.

Because when we get triggered by our partner, fight or flight takes over, our heart rate goes up, those old and harmful patterns will creep their way in, and before you know it, it’s disconnection city in your household with both partners left feeling frustrated and back in the same “stuck” feeling place. And this happens over and over and over again for most couples.

There’s a saying in the world of therapy and coaching that most couples have the same fight over the course of forty or fifty years. And we have found...

Marriage and intimate relationship is truly sacred and beautiful when you’re with the a conscious and aligned partner who is on their own healing path of inward and upward growth. This is called: walking the healing path of love together. This is a wonderful and rare thing.

On the other hand, if either you or your partner are not doing your healing work, not conscious of your own flavors of dysfunction, not taking radical responsibility of your own growth – marriage will sadly – only be a mask you wear.

And underneath it all, will continue to live your inner pain, shame, guilt, trauma, and sorrow that you’ve never healed – and you’re likely with someone who is in the same boat. And you’ve likely begun to look at one another as the “problem.”

And the more time that passes being with this person, the more dysfunctional they become, you become, and the more dysfunctional the relationship becomes.

Because time doesn’t heal all wounds. Time conceals all wounds. And marriage most certainly will bring all wounds to the surface eventually.

And there you are,...